It's Like You Don't Even Know Me

Hello Friday! It has been a while.

Today is just more of a whine than anything. I apologize in advance.

I have a serious problem with married people, and especially newly married people. It seems that once someone gets married all remembrance of their single life, no matter how long they were single, is gone from their memory. The following story is just one example of the many, many conversations I have had of this nature over the past little while. And it seems that most of them occur at Superstore.

The other day, I went to Superstore, getting a small amount of food to tide me over until our next grocery shopping adventure, when I ran into someone that I grew up with who had recently gotten married. I congratulated the couple on their recent nuptials and introduced myself to the bride. Now, in the 5+ years since I have seen this person, I have done a lot of things in my life. However, in that time, the one thing I haven’t done is gotten married.

The conversation started out by the groom stating the obvious. “So Denise, you still aren’t married?”

“No, not yet” was my cool reply.

“Well are you at least dating anyone?” came the next tactless inquiry.

“Not at the moment, but hopefully soon. “ I said with a fake smile.

“You should really get on that”

“I probably should. Well, it was good to see you again” and I left the conversation before it even began.

Walking away, too many thoughts ran through my head.

First and foremost being that I probably should stop shopping Superstore.

And secondly, that in all that time I had done some pretty important things, I had graduated from school, I was now working as a legal assist and heck, I even had a different hair colour, none of which seemed to matter, all because I wasn’t married.

So my question to you is this. Is whatever stage you are in at moment, the most important stage?

When you are in high school is that the only thing that matters to you, meeting and talking to other people about high school and high school type things? When you are YSA, do we only focus on being single and the world associated with that? And now that people are newly married, is that the only topic of conversation they can have?

Should we fault people for focusing on things that are similar to themselves?

Will we one day unknowingly rub our marriage in the face of singles?

Just a thought.

Patiently waiting:

For this day and subsequent week to be over.

Excitedly anticipating:

The best Girls’ Night to date. Even if by outward appearances, it looks lame.

Humorously musing:

About Preferences of yore.

Good luck to all of my preference attendees. I am looking forward to all of your tales of woe and wonder.

God Speed.